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How many of you wonder how on earth you can get things to calm down at home and get your children to listen and do as they are told?
Even though we rarely see it, when we as parents react predictably to our children’s misbehavior, we usually reinforce the very behaviour we don’t like!
It shows the children over and over, that certain types of behaviour will get a certain type of response. Because this behaviour is guaranteed to get a reaction, it makes the action very powerful - positive or negative. So, children do it over and over again… because any attention is better than none!
Lets do an exercise:
Take a quick break and make yourself comfortable.
Think about a small issue you have with one of your children that is often repeated – nothing too hard or big to start. Think about what usually happens. What they do and how do you usually respond, physically, verbally and emotionally.
You know this is going to happen again, so for next time plan a completely different response. The opposite of what you usually do. You could ignore it, or walk away. See what happens.
Think about a time when you felt good and things were going well, how did you respond to the same behaviour then? Was it different; was their reaction different?
This week: Just try doing the opposite of what you normally do to one of your challenges. Change your usual response and note what happens. This will give a powerful indication about the power of your reactions and how they can reinforce your children’s behaviour – good or bad!
To find out more, why not sign up for our parenting course right now. (click here) The course consists of five e-lessons, and when you sign up you will be sent the first lesson straight away. The lessons are structured around each other and next four will appear in your inbox every seven days after that.
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Each lesson includes a couple of short tasks that can be done in your own time (as above). You might want to read the lessons through first and come back to the tasks when you have time, or do it all at once. The great thing about this course is you have the flexibility to do it entirely at your own convenience and discretion. You can come back to it as often as you like!
Hopefully at the end of the course you should have a lot more understanding about how your family dynamics work and what to do about it. Things should have started to calm down at home and some of the old habitual struggles that keep coming around should be dropping away. You should be having more fun!
Then, you have the support of a FREE troubleshooting telephone seminar. Where you will have the opportunity to talk about any of the issues you have been finding difficult or aren’t working.
We will contact you with the next available date and a number to call. The session usually takes place between 20.00-21.00 hrs GMT, when parents have more time. We limit the numbers to a maximum of ten in order to create more time for those participating.
If you want to go further, or alternatively, you can take advantage of our winter offer and simply book a 1-1 with Sally click here. This will help you get started and give you support and help through the winter months when you may be feeling gloomy. Things can be tough at home when kids can’t get out as much! The 1-1 can be done face-to-face, or over the phone.
Again it is all entirely at your discretion, you decide. Whether its just one session or a few, do whatever is best for you!
I look forward to meeting some of you on the road, and whatever you choose I wish you all good luck.